In our workshops, we teach something simple but radical:
feedback must be immediate.
Not an hour later. Not tomorrow. Not after resentment builds.
Right now.
Feedback keeps the energy alive instead of stagnating.
That’s why we use a numeric loop:
1, 1, 1, 3, 5, 9, 9, 5, 5, 3, 6, 8!
It’s not about perfection.
It’s about calibration.
Most people wait too long to speak.
They swallow it.
They avoid it.
They hope it will pass.
But friendship dies when you bury your feelings alive.
Instant feedback keeps the channel open:
“More of that.”
“Less of that.”
“That just landed.”
“That missed.”
No story.
No drama.
Just truth.
It’s not about control.
It’s about connection.
If you want a deeper relationship or a deeper life:
Stop waiting for the perfect moment.
Respond now.
Adjust now.
Speak now.
Instant feedback isn’t criticism.
It’s a gift.
And if you don’t give it, it turns into poison.