Drawing a Line
Years ago, Jennie and I hit a wall in our relationship.
Actually, it was more like an avalanche. A collapsed bridge.
We kept trying.
Kept bashing our heads against the wall like a broken Roomba.
Then one day, in the middle of the pain, I crossed a line.
Nope. Not doing this anymore.
I had asked my mother for advice. She said,
“This is just the way it is. Your relationship is broken. It’ll never get better. Eventually, you’ll just accept that.”
And something in me just said NO.
Nope. Not accepting that.
I trusted myself.
Two things were absolutely true:
Something is NOT right here.
And... MORE is possible.
I went to Jennie and said, solemnly:
“Something isn’t working. We need to fix it. Or else.”
And she said:
“Yes. We need to fix this.”
That moment changed everything.
We crossed a line.
No plan. No perfect roadmap. But a decision.
We just said no. Not anymore.
We had no idea what to do next—but we were DONE tolerating.
And that was enough. That was the catalyst.
And now?
When people talk to me about Shades of Intimacy—and they’re worried about the cost, or their schedule, or what the weekend might be like...
From where I stand? That’s all noise.
What matters is this:
Are you clear your relationship must change?
If the answer is YES, then nothing else matters.
That clarity?
That’s the line in the sand.
Every time in my life I’ve drawn that line—said NO MORE—
That’s when it all began to change.
Sacred fire is burning in your NO.
Let’s go.
—Jason