Not because of cheating. Not because of constant fights.
Because the intimacy—the real, electric, sacred connection—was gone.
Two years in… and it felt like we were roommates.
Jennie and I had started strong. Magic. Fireworks. All of it.
But somewhere along the way… it just died.
No spark. No sex. No connection.
Just daily life. Co-parenting. Co-existing.
And under it all… heartbreak.
I told her, “This isn’t working. We need to fix it—or we’re done.”
She agreed.
I dove in. Bought 17 books on intimacy.
Read them to her on road trips.
Tried every technique and conversation hack I could find.
None of it worked.
Eventually I thought: She needs therapy.
But deep down, I knew better.
A friend told me: “Stop reading David Deida. Go see him.”
So we did.
We flew to Ojai for a 3-day intensive.
$6,000. Flights. Hotel. Rental car. No hesitation.
We were either going to reclaim what we had—or walk away.
David looked at us and said:
“You don’t need therapy. You need polarity.”
He told us:
“If just one of you gets this, the relationship will end.
But if both of you do… it will become everything you’re longing for.”
He was right.
That weekend changed everything.
We found each other again.
Not just emotionally. But sexually. Spiritually. Deeply.
And it lasted.
That experience laid the foundation for what would eventually become:
Shades of Intimacy.
We’ve been teaching this work since 2015.
And next week, August 15–17, we’re holding our next 3-day Intensive.
This is for couples and individuals who are DONE tolerating numbness.
Who know something sacred is missing—and are ready to get it back.
Who feel the nudge in their gut that says: “This is your moment.”
If that’s you, message us.
We’ll help you take the next step.
And if not, but you read this far…
Just know this:
When you draw the line and say “no more” to mediocrity…
The way forward will be revealed.
That’s the power of this work.
That’s the power of you.